This is an article that was written from the depths of my heart and my pain.  It is not a "nice" article.  I use some pretty harsh words (including the "f" word) and language to make my point.  It has a goal, however, which is to try to help women see into men's hearts and the pain and hurt men usually bury and hide from women.  Because men have been trained from childhood to "take it," to hide their pain, to tough it out, to try to be strong, it is difficult for men to share what is deep in their hearts.  I have been in men's healing groups however, and I know that men have deep feelings.  They just have a harder time expressing them, a harder time opening up.

I hope that this article will help soften women's hearts towards men.  I'm not suggesting that women put up with abuse, neither sex should not tolerate abuse, but I am suggesting that women realize that they are half the problem in relationships.  It's not all "men's fault."  I hear all the time from women how men abuse them, use them, etc. and yet, I watch these same women be attracted to abusive men who are users and label them "real men."  I also know many kind-hearted, devoted guys who have been emotionally abused, used and "beaten up" by women.  Many women don't realize how abusive they really are because they do not understand a man's vulnerability.
 
This article may offend you.  I'm sorry if it offends you, but it is written from the depths of my own heart as a man, a man who has tried to be honest, caring and loving his whole life.  I am a man who paid his child support in divorces, a man who really loved his children, a man who really cared for and sacrificed for his family, a man who gave his heart freely and lovingly in relationships and a man who feels unwanted and unappreciated in this modern world.

This article is a call for us to soften our hearts to each other, to be less materialistic and less self-centered.  This world is falling apart because people's hearts are becoming cold, hard and selfish.  We are being programmed to be that way by media and messages in society.  We're told to "have it our way."  This is not love, it is self-centeredness and it is destroying the fabric of our society.  It is tearing marriages apart and destroying families. 

If you decide to read this article, your comments and feedback are welcome.

If you've ever been puzzled by the behavior of the opposite sex, you're not alone. Men and women are very different from each other.  The same hormones that create physical differences in our bodies, also create differences in our brains and the way our senses receive information.  Understanding these differences can go a long way to helping us get along better. 

Contrary to what some people teach, the differences between men and women are biological in nature and understanding how we are different can lead to greater understanding, tolerance and respect on both sides. 

In our society, thinking is viewed as the source of everything.  We are commonly taught that everything starts with thinking, hence the admonition to "think positively."  However, we were feeling creatures before we were thinking creatures.  Women, who tend to be more in tune with their feelings are often made to feel that being equal to a man means having to sacrifice their emotions and be more logical.  This isn't the case.  Feelings are equally important to thinking and until we value feelings as much as we value thinking, we will not fully respect or value femininity.